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Perseverance Quotient

Perseverance and failure cannot coexist. Failure happens when you quit. When all is said and done, perseverance, commonly referred to as "stick-to-itiveness," is the ultimate success insurance. Nothing can take its place. Like the old adage of getting up just one more time than you have been knocked down, "Staying with it" applies to so much that is good and healthful in life! From learning to walk to riding a bicycle, our childhood teaches us that failure only occurs when we stop trying. It's a lesson many of us need to revisit in our adulthood. Then we need to consciously apply the techniques and principles that keep us on the "perseverance track." For example, the world is full of those who "tried" to get a business going. After meeting with difficulty or rejections, they quit. They accepted failure, and faded back into the crowd never to be heard from again. The worst part is not that they quit their business, but that they quit themselves. Why should succeeding at a business be easier than learning to ski or to play the piano? We are likely to stumble at first. It's part of the learning process. Ultimately, the people who persevere through the stumbling process learn enough to become successful. It's "staying with it" that separates the successful from the "wanes." Remember the words of Vince Lombardi, "We never lost a game, we just ran out of time." Let's examine this valuable, yet elusive character trait, to see how we can enhance our own level of perseverance in life. How are you currently equipped to persevere in pursuit of your dreams? Give yourself the following quiz. On a scale of 1 -10, one being not all and 10 being perfect, rate your level on each of these factors that play a key role in your ability to persevere: 1. Self-confidence and self-image (Do you believe in you?) 2. Independence in thought and action (Can you go against the crowd when you know they're wrong?) 3. Clarity of purpose and intensity of passion (Do you really know what you want? How hot is your fire?) 4. Integrity (Do your actions align with your professed beliefs?) 5. Honesty with yourself (Are you willing to acknowledge and address areas about yourself with which you're dissatisfied?) 6. Ability to focus (Do you finish projects you start?) 7. Resilience (Can you bounce back quickly from disappointments?) 8. Adaptability to change in circumstances (Can you quickly adjust to surprises?) 9. Health (How is your stamina? Energy level?) 10. The supportiveness of your family, social and career environment (Do the people who surround you add to, or detract from, your willingness to do what's necessary to achieve your goals?) Total Score What Does Your Score Reveal: Below 55  Take a complete inventory. Your positive assets first. Then your areas of opportunity (lowest scoring categories). 55 - 69  You're honest, and that's a good start! Which is what you should do---start!! Also, what can you do to bring up your lowest score? 70 - 84  You're in great shape to go. Maybe a little fine-tuning along the way 85 - 94  Excellent---just don't get too comfortable 95 - 100  You are a Perseverance Machine. Keep up the great work!

 

11 Ways To Raise Your
Perseverance Quotient:

1. Be grown up, which means, be independent, take responsibility for yourself. When you step out, take risks, and succeed some people may be envious or fearful that they're "losing" the former you. This can cause them to be critical of your new aspirations and plans. They become "dream stealers." When you are overly concerned about what your family, friends and acquaintances might say, you might lose your drive to persevere and let your dreams fade away.

This may be a great time to develop new friends who support your goals and gladly celebrate your achievements. It doesn't necessarily mean that you have to abandon the old ones. But let them know how you feel. Just give them a little room to catch up with the new you!

2. Intentionally select positive re-enforcement. When you purchase books and tapes, movies and other media for your entertainment, seek those with strong, uplifting themes. Select those which nurture your spirit. Avoid as much negative messaging as possible, including other outside influences that bring you down. For instance, why would you choose to read a magazine article or watch a news program that leaves you depressed or angry? For those times when negativity unavoidably invades your space, find something to learn from it or something humorous about it. When someone hands you the thorns, find the roses!

3. Live healthy. Energy and stamina are musts for perseverance. You need them for focus, resilience, optimism, self-confidence, clarity and intensity. You have seen from the above quiz how much each of these effects your Perseverance Quotient!

4. Ask, "What is true?" not "What do others think is true?" To make effective decisions, you must take the responsibility of perceiving reality as accurately as possible. Decision-making is not a popularity contest and there's definitely no guarantee that what the majority thinks or believes is compatible with the truth. This includes the people the majority regard as experts.

When you seek the truth, you're being true to yourself. When you're true to yourself, you nourish your will to persevere.

5. When getting advice, consider the source.

If you want to shorten the distance from perseverance to achievement, you want to learn from the mistakes of others, rather than repeating them yourself. And you want to use the methods that have brought others the success you seek.

If you're planning to climb Mt Everest, who will you look to for advice? The best source is someone else who has done it!!

If you want to pilot an airplane, would you listen to advice from Aunt Matilda who has never done anything in her life more demanding than entering a Bridge contest? Would you ask your accountant? Your best friend? Or would you seek advice from someone who is a successful pilot?

If you wanted to start a small business, would you seek advice from someone at work, your minister, a university professor, a corporate person, or from someone who is already successful in the business?

And here's a fascinating corollary: if you are looking for a way out, an excuse to quit, you need go no farther than Aunt Matilda, your accountant, the folks at work, etc. You'll get all the negative encouragement necessary to put your dream back on the shelf.

6. Avoid the "no action" alibi. We've all been guilty from time to time of using convenient alibis for not persevering.

Eric Hoffer, who had spent much of his life as a "simple" longshoreman, is a great example of someone who didn't let other people's stereotypes, which he could have used as no-action alibis, prevent him from becoming a best-selling philosopher-author.

And Eric Hoffer says it well: "There are many who find a good alibi far more attractive than an achievement. For an achievement does not settle anything permanently. We still have to prove that we are as good today as we were yesterday.

"But when we have a valid alibi for not achieving anything, we are fixed, so to speak, for life. Moreover, when we have an alibi for not writing a book and not painting a picture and so on, we have an alibi for not writing the greatest book and not painting the greatest picture. Small wonder that the effort expended and the punishment endured in obtaining a good alibi often exceed the effort and grief requisite for the attainment of a most marked achievement."

The important thing is to be totally honest with ourselves; recognize the alibi for what it is and not make alibis a way of life.

7. Identify counterproductive habits or thoughts you would like to discontinue. Then dump them!

Being mentally or emotionally rigid means that you hang on to habits that no longer serve you, habits that can make you unproductive, frustrated, unfulfilled.

Examples of counterproductive habits that may reduce your will to persevere:

---Grousing about politics, work or the neighbors with friends
---Blowing small aggravations out of proportion
---Dwelling in the past
---Worrying about stuff that may not even happen, or that you cannot control
---Viewing yourself as a victim
---Worrying about what others are doing or what others have.

"Be true to yourself."

Focus on what you can do, not what you cannot do. When you focus on what you cannot do, you get more of it!

Keep YOUR pace. It's different from the pace of others. Forget the Jones's, and don't feel guilty about moving ahead of some of your contemporaries. Remember the story of "The Hare and the Tortoise." Live the life YOU want to live; earn what YOU want to earn; do what YOU want to do. Don't be too concerned about how others are living their lives.

8. Willingly forgive yourself and others. Do this for your own sake, your own peace of mind. Carrying around the emotions of grudges, disapproval, hatred, or disappointment is toxic to your spirit of perseverance. Whether the subject person is someone else or yourself, you are the one feeling the wound. You don't hurt others when you hold hatred toward them; you hurt yourself. And you can hurt yourself seriously by allowing hatred to fester in your consciousness. You can't experience anger and joy at the same time---so leave plenty of room for the joy!

9. Take reasonable risks. Without risk, there's no reward. Risk avoidance dampens the spirit, undermining the will to persist in the face of obstacles and reversals. The choice not to choose is probably one of the riskiest choices you can ever make, with zero upside potential!

10. Get support. You deserve to be around folks supportive of your aspirations. All good psychologists, counselors, coaches and teachers will tell you that you must have exposure to a positive environment. Napoleon Hill called it a Mastermind Group.

11. Don't quit.

When you feel yourself slipping, remember Sparky. School was all but impossible for Sparky. He failed every subject in the eighth grade. He flunked physics, Latin, algebra and English in high school. He didn't do much better in sports. Although he did manage to make the school golf team, he promptly lost the only important match of the year. There was a consolation match and he lost that, too.

Throughout his youth, Sparky was awkward socially. He was not actually disliked by the other students; he wasn't considered consequential enough for that! He was astonished if a classmate ever said "hello" to him outside school hours. He never found out how he would have fared as a "date." In high school, Sparky never once asked a girl out. He was too afraid of being rejected.

Sparky was a loser. He, his classmates, and everyone else knew it, so Sparky simply accepted it. But one thing was important to Sparky: drawing. He was proud of his own artwork. Of course, no one else appreciated it. In his senior year in high school, he submitted some cartoons to the editors of his yearbook. They were turned down. Despite this particularly painful rejection, Sparky had found his passion.

Upon graduating from high school, he wrote a letter to Walt Disney Studios. He was told to send some samples of his artwork, and the subject matter for a cartoon was suggested. Sparky drew the proposed cartoon. He spent a great deal of time on it and on the other drawings. Finally the reply from the Disney Studios came. He had been rejected once again. Another loss for the loser.

Sparky wrote his own autobiography in cartoons. He described his childhood self, a little-boy loser and chronic under achiever. He was the little cartoon boy whose kite would never fly, who never succeeded in kicking the football, and who became the most famous cartoon character of all, Charlie Brown!

Sparky, the boy who failed every subject in the eighth grade and whose work was rejected again and again, was Charles Schulz.

Charles Schulz persevered. He succeeded beyond his wildest imagination. He earned and deserved that success. He had failed at everything else he had tried. He endured rejection. It took a lot of trial and error to finally find out what it was that he was supposed to do. But he never quit. Because Charles Schulz persevered, the world is richer.

Perseverance is the insurance policy and common denominator for success. So powerful is perseverance that failure cannot exist in its presence. As Edison observed when after thousands of efforts to make the electric light bulb produced no illumination, "I haven't failed. I've identified 10,000 ways this doesn't work" By accurately viewing it as a learning experience, eventually Edison succeeded, leaving the critics and nay-sayers one of mankind¹s most important inventions.

Charles Schulz, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Colonel Sanders, Thomas Edison, Ayn Rand and the endless list of other persistent great achievers found that success inevitably arrives for every person who perseveres. Learn from the people who did it: Let perseverance keep your goals alive. And your dreams real.

Do what you love to do. Stand up for what you believe in. Make it a part of your life. Work toward it every day. Remember with every "No" you are that much closer to a "Yes" And by learning from each defeat and staying the course, success is inevitable.

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Being Focused in Life

What does it mean to be focused?

"I'm pretty focused," you say. "I go to work and I concentrate on getting the job done well. Ha! I know about focused."

That's great! You apply yourself so that you can feed yourself and your family, and keep a roof over your head. It shows that you take your responsibilities seriously towards other people.

That's good.

Now let's think about you for a minute. Think about what you need and where it is that you're headed. You want to be living a rich and fulfilling life experience; you have dreams of where you want to be and you have a real purpose in life.

Do you sometimes find that because daily life gets in the way your attention is distracted from that purpose? Sometimes the road feels rocky and your determination and commitment fall away just a little. The challenge becomes just that little bit too challenging.

Wouldn't it be easier, you think, to ease off for a bit? Even just to turn away and get back to the way things were before? It was easier then.

These are signals. They're a way of your old self trying to come up with reasons for not continuing with the challenge. They are reminding you of that old worry about this being all new and untested. It is uncharted waters.

Scary.

Even worse, you may find that you're listening to other people who might not want you to continue on that course because they themselves find such a journey too challenging or haven't understood why you have chosen the path that you have.

Being focused means being able to ignore those distractions that tempt you away from your path, but remember that the last thing you need to do is beat yourself up about it. It's just a slight pothole in the road.

You can allow yourself to feel these insecurities and these doubts, and learn from them. To recognise them for what they are - mere distractions - and turn your heart once more to the path of your life's journey.

Welcome the falterings and the doubts. Welcome them with open arms, because they strengthen you by your overcoming them. Learn from them.

And keep your eye on the path in front of you. That is being focused.

A Simple Tip for Finding Good Ideas

 

By Donald Latumahina    , February 2, 2009

Do you want to have good, high-quality ideas? In this age of knowledge, having good ideas can separate you from others and put you ahead of the pack.

But how can we get high-quality ideas? As it turns out,a great way to get high-quality ideas is to have a lot of ideas. The Medici Effect (here is my review) says it clearly:

The strongest correlation for quality of ideas is, in fact, quantity of ideas… Pablo Picasso, for instance, produced 20,000 pieces of art; Einstein wrote more than 240 papers; Bach wrote a cantata every week; Thomas Edison filed a record 1,039 patents.

Here is a study cited in the book that proves the relationship between quantity and quality of ideas:

Simonton verified that the relationship between quantity and quality indeed holds true. The number of papers a scientist publishes, for instance, is correlated with the number of citations the scientist receives for his or her top three works. In other words, the best way to see who has written groundbreaking papers is to look at who has published the most.

So here is a tip for finding good ideas:

Produce more ideas

Simple, isn’t it? The more ideas you produce, the more likely you will find high-quality ones.

Here are several ways to produce more ideas:

1. Capture all ideas

A basic way to increase the quantity of ideas is simply to avoid losing ideas. Don’t let an idea slip by once it comes to you. Whenever you get an idea, capture it as soon as possible. Write it down or record it with a recording device. Read 4 Simple Ways to Never Lose Your Ideas for more tips about it.

2. Don’t filter your ideas

By definition, filtering your ideas will reduce the number of ideas you have. Even if an idea doesn’t look good, let it sit for now. Later you might see it from a different perspective which shows the usefulness of the idea. If it doesn’t, you can always trash it later.

3. Find more ideas than you need

If you need five ideas, find ten. If you need ten ideas, find twenty. Finding more ideas than you need is good because you can then choose the best out of them.

4. Produce ideas consistently

Keep producing ideas regardless of your mood. If you are a blogger, keep writing posts. If you are a designer, keep creating new designs. If you are a programmer, keep writing codes. Allocate time for it and make it a habit.

5. Set an idea quota

Related to the previous point, one good way to ensure that you keep producing ideas is to set a target for your output. A writer, for instance, may aim to write at least 1000 words every day. A designer may aim to create one new design each week. Setting a target pushes you to be more productive.

6. Avoid perfectionism

One thing that may hinder you from producing a lot of ideas is perfectionism. If it takes one week to take an idea to 80% quality, it may take one month to take it to 90% and one year to take it to 100%. This is the law of diminishing returns at work. Perfectionism could make you spend the whole year on just one idea while you can actually produce 51 other ideas. It’s better to produce a lot of ideas first, test them, and only then devote more resources to improve the winners.

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If Prophet Muhammad (peace be upone him) Visited You...

Just for a day or two,
If he came unexpectedly,
I wonder what you'd do.

Oh, I know you'd give your nicest room
To such an honored guest,
And all the food you'd serve him,
Would be the very best,
And you would keep assuring him,
You're glad to have him there,
That serving him in your home,
Is joy beyond compare.

But ... when you saw him coming,
Would you meet him at the door,
With arms outstretched in welcome
To your visitor?
Or ... would you have to change your clothes
Before you let him in?
Or hide some magazines and put
The Qur'an where they had been?
Would you still watch the same movies
On your T.V. set?
Or would you switch it off
Before he gets upset?
Would you turn off the radio,
And hope he hadn't heard?
And wish you hadn't uttered that last hasty word?

Would you hide your worldly music,
And instead take Hadith books out?
Could you let him walk right in,
Or would you have to rush about?
And, I wonder ... if the Prophet spent

A day or two with you,
Would you go right on doing the things
You always do?

Would you go right on saying the things
You always say?
Would life for you continue,
As it does from day to day?

Would your family squabbles
Keep up their usual pace,
And Would you find it hard each meal
To say a table grace?

Would you keep up each and every prayer
Without putting on a frown?
And would you always jump up early
For prayer at dawn?

Would you sing the songs you always sing,
And read the books you read?
And let him know the things on which
Your mind and spirit feed?

Would you take the Prophet with you
Everywhere you plan to go?
Or, would you maybe change your plans
Just for a day or so?

Would you be glad to have him meet
Your very closest friends?
Or, would you hope they stay away
Until his visit ends?

Would you be glad to have him stay
Forever, on and on?
Or would you sigh with great relief
When he at last was gone?

It might be interesting to know
The things that you would do,
If Prophet Muhammad, in person, came
to spend some time with you.

by Anonymous
This poem was published in the June 1997 issue of the Islamic Journal.
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Four things

The Holy Prophet (SAW) Said:

1) Four things that make your body sick:

a) Excessive talking
b) Excessive sleeping
c) Excessive eating and
d) Excessive meeting other people

2) Four things that destroys the body:

a) Worrying
b) Sorrow (Sadness/Grief)
c) Hunger
d) Sleeping late in the night

3) Four things that dry the face & take away its happiness:

a) Lying
b) Being disrespectful / impudent (insisting on something wrong knowingly)
c) Arguing without adequate knowledge & Information.
d) Excessive immorality (doing something wrong without fear).

4) Four things that increases the wetness of face & its happiness:

a) Piety
b) Loyalty
c) Generosity (being kind)
d) To be helpful to others without he/she asking for that.

5) Four things that stop the Rizq (Sustenance) :

a) Sleeping in the morning (from Fajr to sunrise)
b) Not Performing Namaz or Ir-regular in Prayers
c) Laziness / Idleness
d) Treachery / Dishonesty

6) Four things that bring / increase the Rizq:

a) Staying up in the night for prayers.
b) Excessive Repentance
c) Regular Charity
d) Zikr (Remembrance of Allah / God).

The Holy Prophet (SAW), Also said to communicate to others even if you listen One Verse (Ayaah) & this one verse will stand on the Day of Judgment for intercession.

The Holy Prophet (SAW) said, Stop doing everything during the Azaan, even reading the Quran, the person who talks during the Azaan will not be able to say the Kalima E Shahada on his/her death bed....

Please pass this message to Muslims...

**READ THIS DUAA FOR BETTER LIFE**

Allahumma- inni- ala- Zikr-ika -wa Shuk-rika wa husni-Ibaadatik

HOW TO OVERCOME PROCRASTINATION IN 8 EASY STEPS

By Kingsley Tagbo

The Procrastination Problem

As a career coach, one of the biggest hurdles I have to overcome when working with my clients is procrastination. An example is a client that I will call Ryan. Ryan acknowledges that even though he has a degree in Information Systems, he is stuck in a dead end job in Help Desk Support. Ryan would love a great new job as a computer programmer. I have worked with him to create a plan of action that includes updating his skill set while simultaneously putting his resume out there to see if a potential employer will nibble on it.

However, no matter how many pep talks and reminder emails I send Ryan, I can't get him to take any action beyond putting the plan on paper. Why? Ryan is a master procrastinator just like many of us out there who just can't seem to get started on the projects that mean so much to us and our future. If Ryan does not overcome this problem, he will never gain the fulfillment of moving into a new career, nor will he enjoy the benefits of doubling his salary which becoming a computer programmer will undoubtedly give him.

So, What Makes Us Procrastinate?

Why does Ryan or anyone else procrastinate? There are different reasons, but the most common are:

• A perception that a task is unpleasant or overwhelming
• Fear of the Unknown
• Fear of Change
• Perfectionism
• Fear of Failure
• Disorganization

The Cost of Procrastination

While procrastination seems to be a benign human fault, it can eat away at the quality of your life with devastating results. Like my client, Ryan, huge benefits that are just at your fingertips will slip away from you. Opportunities to be all that you can be will pass you by.

Not "getting round" to your annual medical or dental check up can result in death if beginning symptoms of a deadly disease are overlooked. Not "getting round" to balancing your checkbook can result in huge overdraft fees and ruin your credit report. Not "getting round" to purchasing life insurance can leave your young children destitute if anything should happen to you. Not "getting round" to your car's oil change can shave years off the life of your car and result in major repair costs or constantly having to purchase a new vehicle. The list goes on and on.

What's on your "Put It Off List"?

A New Year is a good time to dig out all the things you have left undone and begin to tackle them right now. The good news is that with this article in your hands, you will have proven strategies for success in actually completing these tasks. Here's your very first task. Right now, before going on, make a list of five things that you've been planning to do, but haven't. DO IT NOW. Just grab a pen and paper and make a list of five things that you've been putting off. Then read the rest of the article. You will be able to start applying these tips to accomplish them right now.

How to Overcome Procrastination

Step One: Visualize the End from the Beginning

First, create a vivid image of what it is like to have completed the project. Bring all your faculties of imagination to bear on it. Visualizing the completed task ? the benefits you are reaping, the feeling of success or the admiration of your spouse will help you anticipate the achievement you are striving for. After visualizing the completed task, visualize the process of actually working on the task. Imagine sitting at your desk and turning your computer on, opening up your textbook and reading the assigned chapter, gathering notes for your article, purchasing the tools for building your deck etc.

This visualization will change your attitude toward the task and invigorate you with the energy you need to overcome any inertia you feel.

Step Two: Count the Cost
When procrastination sets in, sometimes it is because we have bitten off more than we can chew. One of my clients once set a goal of studying for her IT certifications so that she would be ready to return to work when her children started school the next year. As time went on, I noticed that she was not making much progress with her study and was on the verge of giving up. On further investigation, I discovered that she was trying to study while her two toddlers were at home with her in the same room! I finally convinced her to accept the cost of hiring a baby sitter for a few hours twice week so she could study. She completed her certifications with flying colors and went on to get the job she wanted at the salary she wanted.

Before putting a task on your list, be realistic about the time, cost, interest and expertise that the task will require. You may need to hire a professional or ask for help or raise more money to complete a task.

Step Three: Brainstorm
If you feel like you are stuck on a project or task, brainstorming is a great way to introduce new energy and break the "block" that is facing you. Sit down with a blank piece of paper and a pen and simply write down all your ideas and possible steps for the project. Browse through books and magazines related to your project and glean ideas from them. Don't criticize any of your thoughts and don't stop until all your possible thoughts have been put on paper.

Step Four: Make a Public Commitment
We tend to improve our performance when we know that we are being watched. Tell your spouse or your boss what you plan to achieve. Sometimes telling your enemies or catty friends can work to motivate you because you'll do whatever it takes to avoid failing with them watching.

Step Five: Gather Material
Buy a box and begin tossing in any and everything that it related to your project: Books, articles, news clippings, tools, fabric, color swatches etc. This process will give you the feeling of having gotten your project underway. You will have also overcome another project-killer: disorganization. Because you have all the material for your project together in one spot, it will be easier for you to find what you need when you need it instead of stalling because of an itty-bitty item that has mysteriously disappeared.

Step Six: Break it down ? Do it One Step at a Time

Now you are ready to tackle your project, but wait, don't dive in yet. You need to break down the entire process into small, simple and doable steps. Having these steps written down on paper creates a kind of automatic action trigger when you look at them. You know that each day you work on your project, you only have to focus on one of the steps at a time. This will prevent procrastination from being triggered by the feeling of being overwhelmed by the sheer size of the project.

Step Seven: Sweat It Out For Ten Minutes
When you find yourself not working on a project and continually putting it off, a good way to get yourself jumpstarted again is to set a timer and work on the item with your full item for ten minutes. No matter how unpleasant or stressful you find the task, you can bear to do it for ten minutes at a time. When your ten minutes are up, you can stop and go do something else. More often than not, you will find that just ten minutes of focused work will get you on a roll and you will want to continue the task to completion. For the days that you are still stressed after ten minutes, stop and proceed to another task and return for another ten minutes the next day.

Step Eight: Set the Bar Low
When an otherwise talented and ambitious person is also a chronic procrastinator, the cause is usually a deep seated tendency toward perfectionism. This perfectionism creates an expectation in the individual that he or she must do the job perfectly the first time around. This expectation creates stress, anxiety and the fear of failure. The individual is likely to put the task off indefinitely so that he never has to evaluate his performance and can keep his imagined perfection rather than improving his actual performance. The solution to this is to set the bar low for the initial results of the project. Remind yourself that you can revise your article as many times as you need to once you get your thoughts down on paper. Remind yourself that you can always paint a room over if you botch the job the first time.

Final Thoughts
Apply these steps to your to-do list and you will find that the things you've wished for are easier to obtain than you formerly thought. You will win more victories than defeats just by showing up. You will increase your performance and your ability to create excellence in your life and work. You will decrease anxiety, stress and depression and watch your self-esteem rise. Overcoming procrastination will also earn you a reputation for being dependable and successful.

Last year!

I m back from KY.
My friend passed away this Thursday morning!

I went to see her last time, her funeral was on Friday noon.
I saw her face, she was smiling, her face was not blank but filled
with happy expressions.
There was this amazing dignity around her, I cant explain that
feeling.
When I saw her, I thought she had so much to tell me.
Her face was telling me that she won! She is winner... I cant explain
what i saw on her face, it was like her closed eyes were looking at
something very special. She was more than smiling, her shinning front
teeth were showing.

I want to call her, I want to talk to her, I want to know what
happened, but I have to be like her to be with her.
I was taking her for granted for years, she was my support, my friend,
my sister, my leader and my mentor.
She taught me how to live this life to achieve the eternal pleasure.
I am praying that may my life will be like her.

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Are You Losing Focus? Use These Time Management Tips To Get It Back

By Gregg Hall

We all have the same 24 hours to work with and unfortunately depending on our individual requirements we lose six to eight of those hours to sleep. Knowing that we have already given up that many hours we don’t have any more time to waste so it’s important to focus on what you need to get done during your waking hours. Learn to manage your time properly and you will be able to focus and be more efficient.

The first thing that must be done before you can learn the proper time management skills is to identify the things you are doing wrong that eat up your time and make your activity unproductive. Look back over the last week and remember how you spent each day. Split the days up into five categories.

The first category is negative productivity or tasks that should have already been completed. This is the area that kills the schedules of most people and gets them off focus.

The second category is allowing your planned tasks to be interrupted by activities that are less important or not important at all. Don’t let others influence you to change your priorities.

The third category is things you have completed. These are the tasks that you actually planned and completed to fruition. You might just find after categorizing in this way that you are getting more done than you think.

The fourth category is the time that you work alone. Even if you are not working on the exact tasks that you should be if you are truly working then this can be deemed positive.

The fifth and final category is your down time or time off. I am not talking about short coffee breaks. This is true leisure activity such as working out. Having down time is crucial to success; if you try to work around the clock you will eventually get burned out.

Now that you have identified the areas where you are spending your time it is important to reduce the items that are eating away at your productivity and causing you to lose focus. Here are a few tips to help you.

First you need to plan your work and everything you need to do. Divide a sheet of paper in half and on one side write the tasks that must be done in order of priority with deadlines. On the other side write down the tasks you would like to see done but aren’t crucial. Focus on one task at a time then cross it off as you move down your list. You should take time to do this each morning.

Next you should have an effective time management system whether it is a desk calendar or an electronic system on your computer, laptop, or cell phone you need to use it daily. Have schedules for tasks and stick to them.

The next thing you need to do is to learn the meaning of the word, “no”. Saying no to something doesn’t mean you will never do it, it just means that you can’t do it now. If you are working on something that absolutely has to be done then you have to say no to the movie or the ball game. You have to be able to find the balance between work and leisure.

Get More Things Done with Ultradian Sprint

By Donald Latumahina, April 28, 2008

Are you satisfied with your current level of productivity? I’m not. I’m always looking for ways to increase my productivity. The challenge, of course, is to get the most results within a certain period of time.

Recently I learned a technique to do exactly that called “ultradian sprint”. I read it in an article entitled Manage Your Energy, Not Your Time in Harvard Business Review:

Distractions are costly: A temporary shift in attention from one task to another - stopping to answer an e-mail or take a phone call, for instance - increases the amount of time necessary to finish the primary task by as much as 25%, a phenomenon known as “switching time”. It’s far more efficient to fully focus for 90 to 120 minutes, take a true break, and then fully focus on the next activity. We refer to these work periods as “ultradian sprints.”

While the ideas of “do not multitask” and “block the time” are not new, I’m interested with the word sprint. It describes the level of intensity required in such work periods. You should not just walk or even run; you should sprint. If you make it a sprint instead of just running, you will be able to accomplish much more in the same amount of time.

While I’m still learning to do ultradian sprints, here are some tips I can share to get more things done with ultradian sprints:

1. Set a clear goal

A sprinter needs a clear finish line to run to. Similarly, doing ultradian sprint requires you to have a clear finish line. Set a goal for your work period. The goal acts as a finish line that helps your mind focus on only one point so that you can run as fast as possible.

2. Kill distractions

Can you imagine a sprinter who is being distracted by someone or something while running? In a race where 0.1 second makes a big difference, even the smallest distraction is not tolerable. That’s why you should kill distractions before you begin. Here are some ways to do that:

1. Listen to music to tune out outside noise
   Of course, the music itself should not be distracting. Instrumental music could be good here.
2. Unplug the Internet connection (unless your work is related to the Internet).
   Unplanned browsing is a major cause of black time.
3. Tell your colleagues not to disturb you
4. Switch your cell phone off or put it to silent mode
5. Use distraction-free tools
   For instance, if you are writing you can use tools like Writeroomor Dark Room. They give you a blank screen with only your writing and nothing else.

When you are tempted to allow distractions, just remember: 0.1 second makes a big difference.

3. Set a timer

Using timer has a lot of benefits to increase productivity. In the case of ultradian sprint, timer helps you:

1. Focus your attention
   Since you know that you work for only a limited amount of time, it will be easier for you to focus within that period.
2. Create a sense of urgency.
   Using timer gives you a form of deadline that creates sense of urgency. This sense of urgency helps you increase your work intensity.

I use Cool Timer, but there is a lot of other timer software you can use.

4. Determine not to stop before the time is up

For me, this is where the difficulty lies. There is often temptation to stop before the time is up because I feel that I can’t concentrate. Often I do stop in such moments, but recently I try not to stop.

I think the word “sprint” gives us a tip on how not to stop. If you sprint,your mind is fully focused on the finish line that you can’t possibly think of something else. Similarly, if you do ultradian sprint, your mind should be so focused that you can no longer think of something else, stopping included. If we still think that we want to stop, it means that we are not focused enough. Perhaps we just run but do not sprint.

5. Aim to accomplish as much as possible

The word sprint means you should run as fast as possible. It is not the time to relax and work at a comfortable pace. Instead, you should push yourself to accomplish as much as possible within that period.

6. Take true break

After you completed a work session, you should take true break. It means that you should not do something work-related like reading emails. Let your mind be fully relaxed. Depending on your preferences, you could meditate, lie on the bed, take a walk in the park, or chat with colleagues over non-work topics. During this break periods, try to clear your mind and refresh your energy so that you are ready for another sprint session. The break periods might not seem important, but the quality of your next sprint session very much depends on it. So not only you should have quality sprint, you should also have quality break.

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Stay positive

There are times when we must go through negative situations. Maybe people say something negative about us, or they show rejection or even resentment against us. In such situations, it may be difficult to stay positive. We may be inclined to react negatively to them. That won’t do us any good though; doing so will just make the situation worse. People may behave even more negatively to us. Our day would be filled with anger and disappointment. At the end, nobody wins.

Though it’s not easy, it’s important to stay positive in negative situations. Beat the negative situations by staying positive. Here are 15 tips on how to do it; pick the ones that work for you:

1. Never respond when you are not calm. If you are not sure that you are calm, don’t respond. Take time to calm yourself down first.
2. Take a deep breath as a first step to calm yourself down.
3. Speak in gentle tone to reduce the tension of the situation.
4. Realize that you can find opportunities in negative situations. Albert Einstein said: “In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity.”
5. Look at the content of what people say to you for somethingpositive that you can act upon to improve yourself. Don’t just reject the whole messages.
6. For the rest of the messages which is negative, simply ignore it.
7. Maintain positive view of the people. Maybe you don’t like their messages or behavior, but that doesn’t mean that you can hate them personally.
8. Realize that having negative feelings will just hurt you, not them. So there is no reason for you to have any negative feeling.
9. If you make mistakes, be open to admit it.
10. If you make mistakes, remember this quote by George Bernard Shaw: “A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable, but more useful than a life spent doing nothing.”
11. If you can, listen to motivational audio program to feed positive thoughts into your mind.
12. Talk to a positive friend who can encourage you.
13. Remember your favorite quotes to give you inspiration and motivation. This is one reason why you should have quote of the day.
14. Look at the negative situations as your training sessions for real life. The higher you climb in life, the worse the negative situations would be, so you’d better be prepared for them.
15. Realize that you can’t please everyone. In fact, nobody can. Sometimes you need to just let some people go. Realizing this will relieve you from a lot of unnecessary burden so that you can focus on the people that you can positively interact with.

from : http://www.lifeoptimizer.org/